I have been writing about the challenges of managing difficult teenager behaviour and how they are misunderstood, Your Unique Family Blueprint , Your Thriving Together Family Behavioural Map (TTFBP) and PEII Blueprint in the TTP Method . In this article, I will show you how everything unravels in the 90 days when we work together as if you are watching a film. But before I start, I would like to introduce you to the White Family (pseudonym to protect my clients’ confidential

Do YOU think it should be raised? Parenting and relationships experts are at odds over the effects of such a move - The Sun My thoughts on the age of consent? Being a professional working with children and young people for nearly 30 years, under-age sex has always been a concern for all professionals, and over the past 10 plus years, I have seen a significant increase of under age sexual activities due to the convenience of technology and social media use. It is worrying. We

I have been writing about the challenges of managing difficult teenager behaviour, how teens are simply misunderstood, Your Unique Family Blueprint and your Thriving Together Family Behavioural Map (TTFBP) . In this article, I will address the other important element in my TTP method - PEII Blueprint and how this can help address difficult family problems. As you all know that my name is Pei-I, and throughout my professional life, I have been working really hard to find the

I wrote about the challenges of managing difficult teenager behaviour, how teens are simply misunderstood and Your Unique Family Blueprint. In this article, I will address the other crucial element in my TTP method. Your family’s Thriving Together Family Behavioural Map (TTFBP). Before I dive in, let me ask you if you are the mum that reads every parenting book, attends every parenting class/programme, listens to every podcast, and consults Dr Google to help your troubled t

Why Parenting Strategies Aren’t Working for Your Teenager — And What You Need Instead In my previous blog, I mentioned the challenges of managing difficult teenager behaviour and how teens are simply misunderstood. In this article, I will address one of the crucial elements in my TTP method that is to look at Your Unique Family Blueprint. The simplest way to talk about “Your Unique Family Blueprint” is that this is the makeup of your family. This encompasses you as a perso

As I was researching the topics to write about what my expertise can help with, I had a shocking discovery..."How To Parent A Difficult Teenager" was the most searched phrase/topic on google, it made me cringe as it felt really labelling but at the same time, it also made me feel sad about the struggles parents are going through with their teenagers. They are simply misunderstood and not difficult. I knew this not just because of my professional experience, but also because I

Who are the villains - it’s important to know what they are if you want to break the cycle of challenging behaviour

Yesterday I made an announcement in my Facebook Group that I am closing my group. It took me some time to announce this in the group because I needed time to work through the emotional process. I was feeling guilty. I was feeling that I have let the parents down. I was feeling incompetent and disappointed in myself. I felt that I am losing something important to me, something I have worked hard to build and more. It was really difficult to let go even I knew logically it’s th

Parenting is challenging in itself. It becomes even more complicated by having to parent with another person. I have seen a lot of...

Have you found yourself attend every parenting class and read every parenting book only to find out that they don’t work for you as a parent when it comes to parent your teens with challenging behaviour? Many parents have walked this path as I have had the privileges to help many of them to come out of this exhausting and hopeless cycle. The following are the insights from my experience. ✅ They don’t and can’t tell you what your unique family blueprint is. This is your uniq

When I was a teenager.. I was confused and conflicted. was angry and felt misunderstood. I was shutting myself off from my parents and family. I was grumpy and unhappy. My mood was up and down. I wasn't talking much. I felt that no one in the world understood what I was going through but my “FRIENDS” at the time. I felt that I belonged when I was with them. I felt that they cared about me. If I could go back in time and tell my younger self to share 1 thing that I really nee

I am feeling pretty stuck with my fitness and weight loss journey right now. 😁 It’s not because I haven’t got the time to eat healthy or do my exercise, although I keep telling myself to do it.. ❓So… why am I feeling stuck if these basics are not the problems for me?? I will come to this later… There seems to be a theme of stuckness everywhere I turned this week. There was someone feeling stuck about how to help a child, how to parent and connect with their teens, how to im

Have you really got over it – your feelings.. really? The other day, my parent client said that he’s got over it. I was curious how he...

Easy Parenting Strategy for your Teen

How would you feel when your date doesn’t ask you out for a second date? How would you feel after 3, or 5 or 10 individual dates with different people, and no one asks you out for a second date?? Devastated. 😥 The first time, you probably will talk yourself around, saying.. I don’t like him/her anyways. It’s their loss. 2nd time, 3rd time? You will still talk yourself around to make yourself feel better.. But… the big but.. After 10 dates with 10 different people and n

Parenting today isn’t what it was a generation ago. There’s more pressure, more noise, more to juggle. You’re trying to hold a career, relationships, household responsibilities, and your own mental health—while raising a teen who might be angry, distant, or hard to reach. You want to be the calm, present parent. But life throws curveballs. Stress builds. Reactions happen. And before you know it, another evening has passed, and you barely looked your child in the eye. It’s not

My parents were successful entrepreneurs back in their time. I was privileged growing up. We had nice cars, expensive clothes, regular trips abroad and more. When I was 13 years old, my dad bought us ( me and my siblings) a house across from our home. His business was expanding so he needed more space. But most importantly, he wanted us to start to learn to be independent. It was horrifying for us. We struggled for a wee while, but with support from my parents, we got there.

I have been watching the Netflix show “Ultimatum”. If you have not seen it, it’s basically about people giving each other ultimatum by going through a period of experience living with another person to find out if they want to marry the person they come in with. I am so addicted to it and fascinated by the psychology and human behaviour behind it. If you think about it, has any of your ultimatum worked? Or if any ultimatum you have received change you what you want and need,

I woke up at 2 AM thinking about my past relationships and my relationship with myself ( I think it’s the jet lag). 😣 To be fair, before I got married, I only had 3 relationships. ❌1st was for 3 months (My first love, totally broke my heart). ❌2nd was for about 10 years (on and off Rachel/Ross from Friends Scenario – a bad version of it). ❌3rd was for 3 years and didn’t get the happily ever after either. What I learned from my 3 relationships over the years were that… �

The majority of parents really struggle with their teens from time to time or all the time. They feel that they have lost their children when they turn into teenagers. They also often feel that they are not set up for success as parents as there are too many challenges that they have never been taught about how to manage and navigate this unique part of the parenting journey. They google, they attend parenting classes or parenting programmes, and nothing seems to have worked