Parental consistency is important..but....

I have been thinking about changing the name of my course Unite 2023 – now called Having a good relationship with your teen in 14 days and its pricing.

However, I felt unable to because I have talking about it so much on social media, emails and ads.

I feel that I have gone too far to change it.

I always keep my words and follow through.

I feel that if I change the name of the course then I am compromising my commitment to families, and if I change the pricing then it would be unfair.

This morning, I woke up feeling so strongly that I am definitely changing the name of the course and pricing because

• I am not aligned to the pricing and name anymore. It doesn’t feel right

• My mind shifted – me changing the name and pricing doesn’t compromise my commitment but demonstrating that I am committed to families and I am willing to make change to make it right for me and them. ( Our minds can really trick us)

As soon as I made the decision, I feel liberated and I feel excited again.

Sometimes you feel the same like I have been – you don’t feel right about the decisions you make that affect your teen and family life.

Sometimes you feel – Opps. I have already said this, so I can’t take it back and I need to follow through and be consistent. You worry if you change direction or retract what you say – your lose your authority as a parent .

These are normal feelings and thoughts.

Whilst it's important to say that consistency is really important without the doubt because this gives your teens security and safety knowing what they can expect from you. This doesn't mean that whatever you says need to be followed through if they are not in the best interest of your teen and your family.

You need to know that you don't lose your authority just because you change your mind. What's important to know is why you are changing your mind and how you are going to explain to your teen. These are two very important questions.

We all make mistakes and it's ok to make mistakes. You want to teach your teens that it's ok to make mistakes and you find ways to rectify the mistakes.

You as a parent being able to put your hand up (like I just did) and admit that maybe the decision you make is not the best for your teen or others. It’s about how you explain to your teen.. you can say something like… “ Penny, I have been thinking about you being grounded for a month, now having sometime to think about this, it didn’t feel right and I made a decision when I was angry so I am sorry about this, what will happen is …..”.

See,

• you are teaching your teen that it’s ok to make mistake.

• You are showing your teen that you are staying in control.

• you are thinking about them and how the decisions affect their life.

• You are being a good role model.

Your teen will appreciate you and love you even more for this.

It’s never too late to change direction or a decision you make that affects your teen’s life.

It’s always about “How” you go about it.

Warmly

Pei-I, Parenting and Teen challenging behaviour specialist @ Rainbow Parenting Practice

P.S. I empower high-achieving mums to help their troubled teens who get stuck in patterns of challenging behaviour with ease, success and have a harmonious family life in 90 days using TTP Method. The quickest, most effective and most impactful method to strengthen your family connections and change your family story.

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Until then, Remember

🌈There’s always hope, endless hope